MOMCon 2013, the annual Mothers of Preschoolers convention, was held in Kansas City, Missouri this year. Clutter Interrupted had a booth in their Marketplace where we had fun props and free opportunities for moms to make some silly memories.
This caused Chelle and Tracy to think back on their children’s preschool years and put together 6 key choices moms of preschoolers can make to maintain their sanity! Be choosy! Making these 6 choices to fuel you as you try and be the best mom you can be. Listen to the show here.
1. Choose to give yourself a break!
Remember, the preschool mom years are a phase. Baby swings in the living room, diapers – clean and dirty – laying around, 3 kinds of strollers, crayons, play dates, potty training… These are tiring years. They can be filled with questions and doubts, change and surprises, and laughter and joy.
They’ll be gone before you know it. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t get wigged out about the small stuff. Your house will NOT be perfect. But, when you find a child in the toilet…
Or, a tub overflowing with bubbles…
…be sure to grab your camera and capture the moment! These photos are some of Tracy’s favorite memories!
2. Choose to make time for “girlfriends.”
Your husband can be your best friend but you NEED to have girlfriends. The preschool years can become a lonely place if you tackle it alone. Be sure you make time for friendships. Share your stories, your needs and your concerns with your friends. On our show, 6 Choices to Help Maintain Your Sanity as a Preschool Mom, the MOPS moms shared what the support of other moms means to them.
If you don’t have friendships you can count on right now begin to look around, reach out and pray that God will give you a much needed friend.
3. Choose FAITH over worry.
Tracy and her daughter, Courtney, try and read Jesus Calling 365 Devotions for Kids every morning before school.
Just today it reminded us:
“Start talking with Me (God) about whatever is on your mind. Be glad that I understand you perfectly — that I know exactly what you’re going through. Keep talking with Me, and you’ll start to feel better — and better. Just being in My Company can bring Joy into your hardest day.”
Take your worries to God and talk with Him until you start to feel better!
A verse that Chelle turns to when she is worrying is Psalm 62:8.
Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.
What are you worrying about?
4. Choose your husband over your kids!
The most important thing you can do as a mom is to put your husband first. We hear this all the time but are we doing it? What is one small thing you could do today to show your husband that you are putting him first? It can be something as simple and valuable as a kind word or a thank you!
One of the best books both Chelle and Tracy read on the topic was The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I love this review on the book, too!
5. Choose contentment over comparison.
It is hard to be content, to actually learn to be content in every circumstance. One of the very best studies Tracy and Chelle did in a small group was Choosing Gratitude by Nancy Leigh DeMoss.
It is a book that you could read on your own but why not ask a few friends to read it along with you and meet once a week to talk about it? It will help you choose contentment as you choose gratitude in all circumstances!
6. Choose to be an example to your children.
Your kids will learn by the example you set. Yikes. No pressure on us as moms, right?
It is overwhelming to be the example as the organized mom, the brave mom, the hospitable mom, the healthy mom, the grateful mom, the volunteer/serving mom, the money-wise mom, etc! We actually can get so overwhelmed with this list that we make no progress in any of the areas!
This leads us to our ONE action step to take today.
Cut through the clutter of making wise choices and pick ONE of the 6 choices above to focus on. Then choose ONE action step to do today. Here is a simple example for each choice:
#1 – Take a nap instead of cleaning the living room.
#2 – Schedule an activity THIS week with a girlfriend.
#3 – Turn away from your computer for 5 minutes and talk to God about the top concern causing you to worry.
#4 – Text your husband a heart felt thank you for something you appreciate about him.
#5 – Write three things you are grateful for on your bathroom mirror.
#6 – Be an example to your kids by sharing something you did wrong and ask for forgiveness.
Remember, just pick ONE action step for just ONE of the 6. What are you going to do today?