This week Jill talks about cutting the emotional ties to our stuff. Thanks, Jill!
A statement I hear frequently from clients is, “Jill, why is it so hard for me to get rid of this stuff?” It’s probably because you and your belongings have a history together, and sometimes this history threatens to keep you and your stuff together until the end of time.
“Attachments will make it difficult to pare down your possessions and become more organized.”
~ Jill Annis
Most attachments are the result of two basic emotions: fear and guilt.
This week I will provide some tips for overcoming fear.
Do you feel anxious and afraid to part with items? If so, ask yourself these questions:
- How long has it been since you last needed it?
- If it is a piece of paper, can the information it provides be found elsewhere, maybe on the Internet?
- Can the item be borrowed from someone if you find that you do need it in the future? I’ve borrowed chairs, crock pots and wine glasses for parties.
- Are you afraid to part with items that belonged to a deceased loved one? Maybe you fear getting rid of the item will cause you to forget that person.
Ask yourself: Do I need the actual item to remember my loved one, especially if I don’t particularly like the item? Could I take a photo of those items and then let go of the actual things? Another option is to choose a few special keepsakes and display them in a way that honors your loved one (instead of storing them in the basement) and then let go of the others.
Next week I will provide tips for overcoming guilt.
In the meantime, work through your feelings of fear in order to free yourself from clutter.