Last time Jill wrote about attachments to our stuff and how fear may reinforce our attachments. This week she talks about guilt.
I (Tracy) have been thinking on this topic, wondering if I’ve kept anything out of fear or guilt. Of course, I couldn’t think of anything at first. Then these glasses that my uncle gave me from my grandparent’s china cabinet came to mind. He said they were valuable. They’d be more valuable if there was a full set of 8 but there are only 7. They take up a valuable shelf in the kitchen cabinet and have been there for 10 years!!!!!!! I may have used one of them one time.
I am not sure if it is fear or guilt or procrastination or confusion. I really don’t know what to do! How do I find out if they actually are valuable? If they are should I keep them because they are a family heirloom or sell them? How do I find out if they are valuable?
So there they sit. But I think I am ready to minimalize my belongings and free up some space. #noguilt #nofear
Thanks, Jill, for motivating me to make some decisions!
The feeling of guilt may also sidetrack your attempts at downsizing. Here are some tips for overcoming guilt and freeing yourself from stuff.
• You receive a gift that really isn’t your taste but you feel guilty getting rid of it. A gift is just that, a gift. It isn’t meant to be a burden. If it’s something you hide away in the basement because it’s not your style, then it becomes clutter. If the gift giver asks about it (which I doubt they will), you could tell them you value their friendship or love, more than anything they could buy you.
• The item was a large investment so you don’t want to just give it away. The money won’t be returned to you if you keep it; instead you may beat yourself up every time you see it. We all make purchasing mistakes. It’s time to move on.
• Those clothes may fit me again someday when I lose weight. This is an especially tough one. Consider this, do you need to have reminders hanging in your closet of your former self? Use your closet to store clothing that fits and makes you feel good. Keep your favorite pair of jeans, and let the rest go. If you lose the weight, celebrate with new clothing.
• You feel wasteful getting rid of a perfectly good_________ (fill in the blank). Try selling it, donating it to a charity, or listing it on freecycle.org.
Own your stuff; don’t let your stuff own you.