When he asked me if he could drive over to his friend’s, I had to pause. Here was the brief conversation I had in my head while he was waiting for an answer: “Wow!… Already?… Just like that, he’s out the door by himself… Oh my!… Am I okay with this?” I actually had to wrestle with that last part. “Am I okay with this?”
I didn’t necessarily have a good reason to say no. It was just the sudden change. The change from him depending on a ride, to his independence to drive himself. The change from needing me to not needing me. The change from the family dynamic being one way and now moving into something completely different. He was ready for the change, but perhaps I wasn’t.
So I said yes….then prayed. I prayed a lot throughout the night. Not freaky, worried prayers, just smart safety ones. I find myself doing more praying as more changes occur. I suppose it’s a good thing, right?
Change. It’s not easy. Sometimes it’s welcomed. Other times it’s dreaded. Sometimes we need change to get us off the treadmill of our lives that have us stuck in a lifeless rut.
British philosopher Alan Watts said, “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” I love that. It seems to me that in a lot of ways we fight change because we fear the unknown that comes with it. Or we dislike it because it upsets our pretty little apple cart.
I’m not saying we should be giddy about any and every change that comes our way. God sometimes throws us some pretty intense curveballs or allows us to go through painful changes in our lives. These are hard. But we also have to remember that there is no growth without struggle. In the long run, change brings growth.
What change do you need to “plunge into”—and stop avoiding?
What change do you need to “move with”—and not against?
And in what change do you need to “join the dance”—even if it’s awkward and you step on a few toes?
Let us know if you’re in the midst of change and we’ll join you in praying through it.